The Abditory Blog

Turns out I am bit EXTRA when it comes to missing / loving my better half. Long Distance Relationships, let's get started. - I am doing it because I know he's the one. I keep reading articles and keep myself updated with how to's, because it's necessary to realize and understand from others mistakes and learn from them. No relationship is purrfect, and neither is ours in all honesty. I get upset so easily - he's such a mature human being when it comes to self control or in terms of life itself and genuinely I admire him so much for that. I have never been this person who want's extra attention or is clingy. The only time that happened was probably in my first relationship - which ended in two months, because I was a rebound. Any how - with him, it's so different - because we live so far away, exactly 10,799 km's. So here's what I read and what I am going to try to do - not forgetting the fact that I am trying to become a better version of ...

I read this article on Medium recently and I think this is what everyone should know - it was written by Kris Gage.  I also happened to be thinking about this recently and it's when you decide to give someone your everything it when you love. Thinking about this, couples who last long - decide in their head that they want this, with all their heart.  It's about when you decide to be in love and when you finally commit to yourself and your partner.  How to know you LOVE them: (1) You know because you decide You don’t  feel  love. You DO it. It’s an act, not a feeling. It’s a moment by moment decision and re-commitment. You  know  because it’s deliberate and conscious. (2) You know because you DO the act of loving You invest. You exert effort. You don’t knowingly do harm. You aren’t vengeful, petty, manipulative, or jealous. Their needs never seem irritating. You aren’t grabby with them, their time, or their affection in return....

I am 100% sure I want to live with the person I am dating today. I don't know how to control the thoughts I have sometimes, I have so many ideas in my head to live a quality life and I want to with him. He's such a perfect honey cup. When I am upset, I don't know why my thoughts keep going to the negative side - I really need to pull my self together. I can make a relationship work, I will be understanding, I will let him live his life the way he wants, I will be by his side supporting him, I will stand with him whatever happens, I will give him all the love I have. I will also do all the things I want, I will make it happen, I will serve the society, I will contribute, I will try to understand life from a way more different perspective. I want to grow with him, together. This is the first time I am feeling this. I took a small break from him yesterday - I felt I needed it, we had a fight two days back - on weed and acid - I thought he valued it more than me, I want...